Are You More Connected to Your Phone Than Your Partner?

Oscar nominee Jennifer Lawrence and her actor boyfriend Nicholas Hoult reportedly broke up recently after two years of dating. One can only imagine that, with all the buzz surrounding The Hunger Games and Silver Linings Playbook, Jennifer’s phone has been ringing off the hook.

We see it all the time, celebrities with their phones constantly in hand. It seems like they must be available all the time – right? But availability comes in all sizes. They might have to put their phone down when they are on stage, or when they are shooting a scene. That’s certainly understandable and to be expected. But what happens when that very device that helps to keep you in touch is the thing that is now keeping you apart?

Your iPhone, Blackberry, iPad or Droid might be sucking all of your or your partner’s attention away from the time you have together. We don’t know if that was the case with Jennifer and Nicholas, but it ramps up the question we all have to deal with: Are you paying more attention to your phone than to the people around you?

Usually the reason you are connected to you phone is your job – the boss might be calling or you don’t want to miss out on a deal that is in the works. And once that is explained, they are supposed to understand. But even work has to have limits. If it is spilling over to the dinner table or, even worse, the bedroom, then the answer is you are probably more connected to your phone than to your partner. Over time, that can compromise your relationship because it can leave your significant other feeling unimportant and left out

It is OK to be accessible to your job, but not if it makes you unavailable to your partner. When that is happening, put some guidelines in place. For example, you can decide that there should be no phone while watching a movie, or maybe deciding to put the phone away completely after dinner might help. At the very least, turn it off during mealtimes and bedtime. Try to preserve your togetherness by editing out the phone. Make its presence the exception and not the norm.

By Dr. Jane Greer for GalTime

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